Love for someone is generally rewarding as long as the feeling is mutual. If the passion for another person is not reciprocal, it is an unrequited love.
It is associated with a series of intense emotions : frustration, sadness , obsession , anger and helplessness. Of course, this peculiar combination has a destructive emotional component that can become heartbreaking.
What can we do when we love but are not loved?
Facing unrequited love is painful and bitter. While there is no foolproof recipe for overcoming these types of situations, there are some considerations that can be helpful. In the first place, it is convenient to rationally accept that the loved one does not love us. Second, we must analyze why we feel hurt by the situation. On the other hand, try not to despair.
So that the emotional disenchantment does not intensify, it is desirable to physically distance oneself from the loved one and seek some kind of distraction. In short , to this problem it is necessary to set up strategies to help us regain emotional balance .
A classic theme in literature
In the romance novel the love theme is treated from multiple perspectives and one of them is precisely unrequited love. Characters who experience this passion are deeply marked. In both real life and fiction, unrequited love is a variant of impossible love.
The character of Don Quixote falls in love with a humble peasant named Aldonza Lorenzo, but in the delusional fantasy of the noble knight he is known by another name, Dulcinea del Toboso.
The striking thing about this love story is that Dulcinea is actually a product of the overflowing imagination of the protagonist of the novel
In the novel "Great Expectations" by Charles Dickens the protagonist is a young man named Pip who falls deeply in love with an attractive and haughty young woman, Estella. He is an orphan of very humble origin and she is the adoptive daughter of a wealthy lady. For Pip, his beloved is someone inaccessible because of her beauty and her social status .
In William Shakespeare's "Romeo and Juliet" we find the antithesis of unrequited love. Despite this, the two characters have a tragic end because their love is full of insurmountable difficulties.